But what impressed me the most was the valentine candy my mom would get from my dad. It wasn't terribly expensive. People were not as materialistic then. But it was always a red, heart shaped box, sometimes with ribbon or velvet on it. To me, it was extremely elegant and beautiful. Something a princess or a movie star would receive.
The jewelry ads really irritate me. Yes, I imagine some people that have a lot of money give expensive jewelry. Most people don't have a lot of money, or if they do they also have children, charities, and a myriad of more worthy things to spend it on. I am not saying your spouse is not worthy. I AM saying your spouse does not need to be treated like an expensive callgirl. Not unless she has self worth issues. And if she does, perhaps you would be better off finding a new person to be your valentine.
Real women, women who know their value and truly love their men (or women) for the person they are, don't need a diamond bracelet or ring, a several hundred dollar meal, chocolates that cost $50 for six. If you can afford that by the way, by all means give it. But be more original than the stooge who is tricked into giving it on Valentine's Day. Give it on a regular day. Really suprirse her. Don't cowtow to the businesses greed on this day that is supposed to be about love and lovers.
A real valentine is authentic. They look the person they love in the eye and tell them how much they really mean. How they always look forward to seeing them every day. That their heart beats faster whenever they get a smile, a kiss, a kind endearment from their partner.
A real valentine cleans up after the valentine meal if they could not spend money out somewhere reasonable. Or they cook. A real valentine watches the children while their partner takes some "me" time. In fact, a real valentine does half of the work around the house, if both partners work at jobs or careers, not just once a year.
A real valentine remembers to show that they mean those fancy words by following up-if not every single day-most days, by always doing at least one small, intimate thing to show their love. It doesn't take money. It takes giving of oneself.
A real valentine does not have to shower their lover with expensive gifts. They automatically know that the most precious gifts of all are true love, attention, and time. Those things will always be cherished because, dear valentines, those things are priceless.
How do I know? I am one of the lucky ones. I feel cherished the majority of days. I didn't marry money, or fame, or power. But I did marry an authenic valentine.